It’s a long time since my responsibilities changed from the workplace to stay at home dad.
But I remember vividly the day I handed my notice in and the day I left employment.
It felt good to be leaving a place I didn’t enjoy working at and to be doing something more worthwhile.
Many of the people I worked with were skeptical about my longevity as a stay at home dad.
I proved them wrong at least as it’s now been almost seven years since I left.
The First Few Weeks
After the initial relief of leaving my last employer, the first few days were hard.
Going from the workplace to stay at home dad, was trickier than I ever imagined.
I remember wondering in the first few weeks whether I’d made a mistake.
My daughter was around 18 months old when I gave up work.
It’s intense being at home with a little one in tow and they demand all of your attention most of the time.
It felt like a relief when she had an afternoon nap because I could breath for a couple of hours.
But in that time I couldn’t put my feet up because all the housework needed to be done.
It’s Not Easy To Fit In
Going from working in an open plan office to being at home is a strange experience.
At first you miss having people around you and it can feel quite lonely.
You certainly have to be happy with your own company if you’re transitioning from the workplace to stay at home dad.
The obvious thing is to find somwhere to go where you’ll find some adult company but that’s also kid friendly.
Much of that space is dominated by mums though and it can feel quite intimidating.
I took my daughter to Jo Jingles for a few months when she was a toddler, thinking there might be other stay at home dads there.
Unfortunately there wasn’t.
Since my daughter was more interested in running around the room whilst we were there, I soon stopped going.
It Gets Easier In Time
Within a couple of months of going from the workplace to stay at home dad I’d found my stride.
I’m not the world’s greatest cook but I found myself finding new skills in the kitchen.
Not all of my culinary exploits were successful but I was inspired to give it a go.
Over time I found I didn’t miss the open plan office, the commute or dealing with pensions.
I’ve lost touch with a lot of my work colleagues but that’s not such a bad thing as I barely drink any alcohol these days.
As my kids have gotten older and moved onto school, I’ve also been able to spend more time doing more of the stuff I’ve always wanted to do.
But I still have the time to do all of the housework, grocery shopping and school drop offs and pick ups.
Going Full Circle
I’m now at the stage that my kids are of the age where I can think about returning to work.
I keep managing to put it back because it scares the bejesus out of me but it will happen one day soon.
After such a long time at home, it will be a big shock to the system going back to work.
The clock is ticking as wherever we are in the world in 12 months time, I will be looking for a job.
It would be nice to think we won’t be in Scotland but if we are then I’ll be looking here.
I don’t want to end up in the pension industry but it would be the simplest option.
Somewhere without a huge commute would be good as I’ll still need to do some of the school drop offs and pick ups.
Are You Thinking Of Making The Transition From Workplace To Stay At Home Dad?
Have you already left work and become a stay at home dad?
How did you find the first few weeks and beyond?