A few times now when we’ve been out, my daughter has spotted someone with their ears pierced.
She keeps asking when she can get hers done and I’m loathed to give a definite answer at the moment.
She’s only seven and I don’t consider that to be an appropriate age for getting an ear piercing.
I’m aware that some of her peers have had theirs done and that may be contributing to the interest.
I suspect she’d be even more adventurous than just getting her ears pierced too.
One lady in a shop we visited the other day had her lip pierced as well as her nose and ears.
My daughter commented on it and I felt a little embarrassed.
I know it’s the inquisitive child in her although I’ve asked her not to comment on others appearance because it can cause offence.
In this instance the lady seemed only too pleased that my daughter had noticed her piercings.
What Is The Right Age For Letting My Daughter Get Her Ears Pierced?
There’s definitely something weird about seeing babies and toddlers with pierced ears. It just doesn’t seem right.
And even little kids with ear piercing look like they’re growing up way too fast.
I’ve always thought that I’d let her get her ears done when she was a teenager.
At that point we can have a more informed discussion about it.
If possible I’d like to hold back until she’s at least 16 because then it will be down to her.
So that would seem like the best and earliest age to allow it.
In England and Wales there’s no requirement for parental consent at any age for the more standard piercings.
What If She Wants To Get It Done To Fit In With Her Peers?
To be honest, I don’t really think it would be a good enough reason to get her ears pierced just to fit in with others.
It feels like many of my daughter’s peers are growing up far too quickly.
I’ve discovered they’re into quite trashy things from birthday parties and dress down days at school.
And it makes me sad that their parents are encouraging them to look much older than they actually are.
It was one of my daughter’s friends who introduced her to makeup.
That’s okay but now she wants to wear it to school and that goes for nail polish too.
It’s frowned upon by her school so we only let her put it on at weekends and during school holidays.
What About Other Piercings?
My daughter’s also been talking about other piercings, such as tongue, eyebrow, nose and belly button.
I think making a decision about ear piercing before age 16 would be a big one.
She may regret having holes in her ears at a later date and wish she’d never had them done.
I’m also conscious of the things that can go wrong after the procedure such as skin irritation and infections.
I don’t want that for her so when I do finally decide the time is right she’ll need to wear gold studs for some time.
I don’t want to see giant trashy earrings hanging from her earlobes.
How Do You Explain About The Procedure?
I’ve never had my ears pierced and never will but I’m sure it’s similar to having an injection.
It’s not pleasant and I think that it may surprise my daughter what the whole thing entails.
My wife says that it stings a bit and that she wouldn’t want to subject my daughter to it either until she’s a teenager.
And I hope that my wife will do the explaining because she’s at least had it done.
Subjecting my daughter to that before she’s ready wouldn’t be or fair.
I would want her to take some responsibility for looking after her piercings after they’re done.
That’s why getting them done when she’s young just wouldn’t be right.
What Do You Think The Earliest Appropriate Age Is For Ear Piercing?
People have different views on when they would allow their child to get their ears pierced.
What would you consider to be the earliest age a child should be allowed to get them done?
If you’ve already let it happen, how did it go and what was your child’s reaction?
How have they coped with caring for their ear piercing afterwards?