I’ve always struggled not to let things annoy me.
It can be anything from something trivial to a life-changing event that sets me off.
But once I’ve started to feel annoyed about it, I can’t seem to let it go.
I’d never resort to violence. I’m not that way inclined.
It does give me sleepless nights and that makes me feel grumpy.
It’s also in my nature to worry. It’s a hint of insecurity too.
I have tried many things to help yet none of them have been completely successful.
Go To Bed Earlier
I’m usually in bed by 10.30pm.
Since I had kids and I’m getting older I struggle to stay up much later than that.
Tiredness kicks in and I want to go to bed. I’m lucky if I can stay awake to watch the news on the TV.
But when I get to bed I’m often wide awake.
Lately there’s also a lot of things going on that affect my family.
The only time my wife and I seem to get the chance to speak about them is once we’re in bed.
Not the best time to be talking about these things.
Making time for discussion once the kids are in bed needs to be a priority!
Stop Drinking Alcohol
When I was still in work, I used to drink a lot of beer most weeks.
It felt like a good way to wind down and to be socialable with work colleagues.
It did paper over the cracks and at times made things worse.
The other consequence of drinking beer was the resulting weight gain.
At my heaviest I weighed in at 16 stone. That made me feel miserable and compounded things.
Nowadays I rarely drink alcohol and it’s helped keep the weight off.
Yet sometimes it feels like I’m missing out on something that did help me relax.
Get More Exercise
And over time I built up my stamina first with walking and then started running.
I managed to get down to my goal weight a few months ago and now tip the scales at 11 and a half stone.
I moved onto a Garmin Forerunner because it was more geared towards running.
Now I go running three times a week and run more than 10k each time.
Getting out in the fresh air and pushing myself has helped a lot to lighten my mood.
It gets the adrenline pumping and the endorphins kick in.
It doesn’t give me the energy boost I’d hoped it would though.
In fact, it makes me feel tireder during the day and with tiredness comes grumpiness.
Things I’m Considering To Avoid Letting Things Annoy Me
I always thought meditation was a bit stupid and pointless.
But there’s so many people who swear by it that I should give it a try.
I noticed a couple of apps on Google Play the other night.
That might be the way to get into it?
As a stay at home dad I’m at home a lot.
The majority of the time I’m busy doing something or other for my family.
But there are opportunities during the day where I could take forty winks.
My wife often does it but I always feel guilty about sleeping during the day.
It’s time to see if it helps.
When the going gets tough, the tough take a nap.Tom Hodgkinson
Join A Club
More than anything I need to get out and meet people more.
Since I’m into running I’ve contemplated joining the local athletics club.
I worry that I wouldn’t be able to keep up with them though.
ParkRun was another possibility but they only run on Saturdays when my wife’s at work.
I also enjoy badminton so the local club would be a good place to start.
I’m a bit rusty but enjoy playing which is the main thing!
Go Back To Work
You can imagine after being at home for five years going back to work is a daunting prospect.
My wife’s not keen on me going back yet as it would cause childcare issues.
As much as it would scare the bejesus out of me it would also give me some much-needed adult company.
And a focus outside of the family.
This one’s on hold for the forseeable future but it may be the inevitable end game.
Are There Times When You Let Things Annoy You?
Are you as laid back as they come or do you let things annoy you?
How do you deal with stress and annoyance?
Do you have anything in particular that works for you?